Monday, April 6, 2020

Danger is only one letter away from anger TB Shabbat 31


Today’s daf TB Shabbat 31 relates several very famous stories about Shammai and Hillel. I’m choosing the one that seems most relevant to our situation today.

"The Sages taught in a baraita: A person should always be patient like Hillel and not impatient like Shammai. The Gemara related: There was an incident involving two people who wagered with each other and said: Anyone who will go and aggravate Hillel to the point that he reprimands him, will take four-hundred zuz. One of them said: I will aggravate him. That day that he chose to bother Hillel was Shabbat eve, and Hillel was washing the hair on his head. He went and passed the entrance to Hillel’s house and in a demeaning manner said: Who here is Hillel, who here is Hillel? Hillel wrapped himself in a dignified garment and went out to greet him. He said to him: My son, what do you seek? He said to him: I have a question to ask. Hillel said to him: Ask, my son, ask. The man asked him: Why are the heads of Babylonians oval? He was alluding to and attempting to insult Hillel, who was Babylonian. He said to him: My son, you have asked a significant question. The reason is because they do not have clever midwives. They do not know how to shape the child’s head at birth. That man went and waited one hour, a short while, returned to look for Hillel, and said: Who here is Hillel, who here is Hillel? Again, Hillel wrapped himself and went out to greet him. Hillel said to him: My son, what do you seek? The man said to him: I have a question to ask. He said to him: Ask, my son, ask. The man asked: Why are the eyes of the residents of Tadmor bleary [terutot]? Hillel said to him: My son, you have asked a significant question. The reason is because they live among the sands and the sand gets into their eyes. Once again the man went, waited one hour, returned, and said: Who here is Hillel, who here is Hillel? Again, he, Hillel, wrapped himself and went out to greet him. He said to him: My son, what do you seek? He said to him: I have a question to ask. He said to him: Ask, my son, ask. The man asked: Why do Africans have wide feet? Hillel said to him: You have asked a significant question. The reason is because they live in marshlands and their feet widened to enable them to walk through those swampy areas. That man said to him: I have many more questions to ask, but I am afraid lest you get angry. Hillel wrapped himself and sat before him, and he said to him: All of the questions that you have to ask, ask them. The man got angry and said to him: Are you Hillel whom they call the Nasi of Israel? He said to him: Yes. He said to him: If it is you, then may there not be many like you in Israel. Hillel said to him: My son, for what reason do you say this? The man said to him: Because I lost four hundred zuz because of you. Hillel said to him: Be vigilant of your spirit and avoid situations of this sort. Hillel is worthy of having you lose four hundred zuz and another four hundred zuz on his account, and Hillel will not get upset." Sefaria.org translation)

I hope that you have been self-sheltering to flatten the curve of the pandemic coronavirus. I have to admit though that the four walls of our homes sometimes can seem more like a prison than anything else. Who hasn’t become a little stir crazy because we should not go outside! Who knows how well our zoom Seders will go and what type of technical difficulties will happen? In these situations a person can become impatient and angry at the littlest things. Tension ensues and that makes self-sheltering worse. That’s why I have always taught that danger is only one letter away from the word anger. Especially during these difficult days we should strive to be more like Hillel than Shammai.

Rabbi  Zelig Pliskin suggests how we can become more patient.

“If you would like to access a state of patience right now: Allow yourself to start breathing the way you would breathe if you were totally patient. Allow all your muscles to be the way they would be if you were totally patient right now. Sit or stand the way you would if you were totally patient. Think the thoughts you would think if you were totally patient. Think of a person who accomplishes a lot and yet is very patient. Imagine for a few moments that you are this person and become as patient right now as that person is. How would you talk and what will you say if you were in a patient state? Close your eyes and repeat yourself slowly and gently “Patience, patience.” Visualize yourself being totally patient and let the feeling of patience permeate every cell and every muscle…..

“From now on, view impatience as your teacher. Study the lessons your patience teaches you. Develop the habit of saying, ‘This is an opportunity to become more patient.’ Feel joy every time you feel a bit more patient.” (from Begin again now!, page 245-6)





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