Sunday, August 29, 2021

The yetzer hara and the me too era TB Sukkah 52

Daf TB Sukkah 52 answered a question that has been bothering me the longest time. Over 201 powerful or famous men have lost their jobs or major roles because of inappropriate sexual behavior[1]. They include Senators, House of Representatives, state senators and representatives, actors, and TV personalities. We even had a presidential candidate paying hush money to a porn star with whom he had relations while his wife was recovering the birth of their son! What’s the matter with them? They are intelligent men who should know better. How could they behave in such an abominable way?!

The Gemara explains in his own way how people can rationalize bad behavior over a period of time. Rav Asi said: Initially, when it begins to entice someone, the evil inclination (yetzer hara) is like a strand of a spider’s web [bukhya]; and ultimately it is like the thick ropes of a wagon, as it is stated: “Woe unto them that draw iniquity with cords of vanity, and sin as if it were with a wagon rope” (Isaiah 5:18). Initially, the enticement is almost imperceptible, like a thin strand; however, after one sins, it is like wagon ropes tied tightly around him.” (Sefarai.org translation) Anybody can rationalize anything away.

 The Gemara explains why people who have power like the 201 men mentioned above can be ensnared more easily than anybody else. “Abaye said: And it the (yetzer hara-gg) provokes Torah scholars more than it provokes everyone else. The Gemara illustrates that point. It is like this incident, as Abaye once heard a certain man say to a certain woman: Let us rise early and go on the road. Upon hearing this, Abaye said to himself: I will go and accompany them and prevent them from violating the prohibition that they certainly intend to violate. He went after them for a distance of three parasangs in a marsh among the reeds, while they walked on the road, and they did not engage in any wrongful activity. When they were taking leave of each other, he heard that they were saying: We traveled a long distance together, and the company was pleasant company.

Abaye said: In that situation, if instead of that man it had been one whom I hate, a euphemism for himself, he would not have been able to restrain himself from sinning. After becoming aware of so great a shortcoming he went and leaned against the doorpost, thinking and feeling regret. A certain Elder came and taught him: Anyone who is greater than another, his evil inclination is greater than his. Therefore, Abaye should not feel regret, as his realization is a consequence of his greatness.” (Sefarai.org translation) I think that the powerful person has a large and unrestrained ego. He thinks he can get away with anything because of who is.

 “The school of Rabbi Yishmael taught: If this scoundrel, the evil inclination, accosted you, seeking to tempt you to sin, drag it to the study hall and study Torah. If it is like a stone, it will be dissolved by the Torah. If it is like iron, it will be shattered. The Gemara elaborates: If it is like stone, it will be dissolved, as it is written: “Ho, everyone who is thirsty, come you for the water” (Isaiah 55:1), water in this context meaning Torah; and it is written: “Stones were worn by water” (Job 14:19). If it is like iron, it will be shattered, as it is written: “Is not My word like fire, says the Lord; and like a hammer that shatters rock” (Jeremiah 23:29).” (Sefarai.org translation)

I would like to believe that studying Torah would be antidote for this type of bad behavior; however, I know that is not true. Rabbis and other Jewish leaders from all the streams from the ultra-Orthodox to the most liberal have been removed from their positions, and/or convicted of crimes of inappropriate sexual behavior. Rabbis and other Jewish leaders are just like every other person in a position of power whose ego seduces him to act in such a vile way. Everybody needs to keep his ego in check before it leads him down a destructive path.

 



[1] https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/10/23/us/metoo-replacements.html 

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